About Tuesday Men's Club
Why We Gather
Maybe you've been curious about meditation but never found a way in. Maybe you've been practicing for years. Either way, you're welcome here.
When we gather--at work, at parties, even with friends--conversation can stay at the surface. Work, sports, family updates. All good, but not always enough.
Tuesday Men's Club offers a slightly deeper alternative: we sit together for a few minutes, get quiet, and then talk honestly about what's actually going on inside.
This isn't therapy. There's nothing to fix. We're not here to give advice or solve each other's problems. We're here to listen. To be heard. To sit with whatever is true right now.
What We've Learned
Sixteen months in, some patterns have emerged:
- Vulnerability begets vulnerability
- Silence is underrated--and rare in modern life
- No matter the age, we want to connect with others and sometimes have a hard time
- Sharing something specific may be exactly what someone else needs to hear
- In-person meditation hits different than an app
- The steadiness of returning is part of the reward
- The group can hold some of its own weight
- A change of setting--especially a walk--makes room for new connections
- "When was the last time you giggled?" is a harder question than you'd think
- Scrolling LinkedIn doesn't help
- We talk about boogie boarding more than you'd expect
- Ice cream helps
Topics We've Explored
Friendship. Fatherhood. Aging. Silence. Traditions. Grief. Joy. Boogie boarding. The hard things. The things we don't say. Warning labels. Self-knowledge. Integrity. Attention. Joyful effort.
What Members Say
"What a beautiful space the Tuesday Men's Club is for me to feel seen and heard in the presence of a group of caring, thoughtful men. This space has provided me the opportunity to take a chance on being vulnerable in a group of strangers and has consistently rewarded me with affirmation, connection, and support."-- Derek
Field Trips
Beyond Tuesday nights, we occasionally gather for outings--hikes, museum visits, meals, walks. Same spirit, different setting.
Our first two summer hikes gave us more time to talk and made room for new connections. Read about Field Trips; new outings are announced by email and posted on Luma.
About the Facilitator
JC Cangilla is a father, husband, and caregiver who's spent the last few years learning how to have real conversations with other men--sometimes awkwardly, sometimes beautifully. He's been facilitating groups and practicing meditation for several years, though he'd be the first to say he's still figuring it out. He's not a therapist or a coach; just someone who believes these spaces work best when we show up with curiosity, presence, and a willingness to listen.
By day, JC runs Linslow Industries, a consulting practice for media and entertainment companies. He makes pour-over coffee every morning, has two kids, and dreams of someday taking a very long walk.
Inspiration
"Fruition" implies that at some future time you will feel good. One of the most powerful Buddhist teachings is that as long as you are wishing for things to change, they never will.-- Pema Chodron
Caretake this moment. Immerse yourself in its particulars. Quit the evasions. Stop giving yourself needless trouble. It is time to really live.-- Epictetus
It's what I live for.-- Uncle Erwin
Related
- Wende Museum -- Our gracious host in Culver City
- The Journeymen -- Men's work that inspired TMC
- The California Walk -- Another JC project
The Invitation
If you're curious, come. No preparation needed. No experience required.
Just show up as you are.
Questions? Call or text JC at 310-402-1751.