About Tuesday Men's Club

Why We Gather

Maybe you've been curious about meditation but never found a way in. Maybe you've been practicing for years. Either way, you're welcome here.

When we gather--at work, at parties, even with friends--conversation can stay at the surface. Work, sports, family updates. All good, but not always enough.

Tuesday Men's Club offers a slightly deeper alternative: we sit together for a few minutes, get quiet, and then talk honestly about what's actually going on inside.

This isn't therapy. There's nothing to fix. We're not here to give advice or solve each other's problems. We're here to listen. To be heard. To sit with whatever is true right now.

What We've Learned

Since April 2025, some patterns have emerged:

• Vulnerability begets vulnerability
• Silence is underrated--and rare in modern life
• No matter the age, we want to connect with others and sometimes have a hard time
• Sharing something specific may be exactly what someone else needs to hear
• In-person meditation hits different than an app
• The steadiness of returning is part of the reward
• The group can hold some of its own weight
• A change of setting--especially a walk--makes room for new connections
• "When was the last time you giggled?" is a harder question than you'd think
• Scrolling LinkedIn doesn't help
• We talk about boogie boarding more than you'd expect
• Ice cream helps

Topics We've Explored

Friendship. Fatherhood. Aging. Silence. Traditions. Grief. Joy. Boogie boarding. The hard things. The things we don't say. Warning labels. Self-knowledge. Integrity. Attention. Joyful effort.

What Members Say

Field Trips

Beyond Tuesday nights, we occasionally gather for outings--hikes, museum visits, meals, walks. Same spirit, different setting.

Our first two summer hikes gave us more time to talk and made room for new connections. Read about Field Trips; new outings are announced by email and posted on Luma.

The Grab Bar

The last few minutes of every session are practical. A man offers something he has or runs, or asks for something concrete, and the room answers. Offers and asks go out to the mailing list afterward, and the men handle the rest between themselves.

What has been on the bar so far, by kind:

• A backyard gym with a weekday lifting hour
• A men's discussion group built around a book, meeting in parks
• A collaborative map of community spaces around Los Angeles
• Family support groups for anyone with a loved one in a mental-health crisis
• A crisis counselor's reminder that the 988 line is for any problem, any hour
• A kitchen that turns surplus food into a few hundred meals a night, and needs hands
• A writing buddy for anyone trying to publish online
• A working laser printer looking for a home

And the asks: a landscaper, a dishwasher recommendation, ways to be of service around the city. Most were answered in the room.

Nothing here names anyone. To reach the men behind these, come on a Tuesday or join the list.

About the Facilitator

JC Cangilla started the group in April 2025. He wrote about what a Tuesday night is like, and why he does it: Every other Tuesday.

Inspiration

Related

• Wende Museum -- Our gracious host in Culver City
• The Journeymen -- Men's work that inspired TMC
• The California Walk -- Another JC project

The Invitation

If you're curious, come. No preparation needed. No experience required.

Just show up as you are.

Questions? Call or text JC at 310-402-1751.